The Healthy Solution to the Traditional Divorce

Life was great.  You have two young children and established careers.  Your kids are thriving and you’re on top of the world!  Then came the dreaded words:  “We need to talk” and “We’re getting a divorce.”  Those words have echoed in your head for days.  You’ve been contemplating the idea of divorce for months, but you never had the courage to leave.  You knew your spouse was being deceitful, but you’ve been thinking that perhaps you deserve this.  In a way, you were glad you both desired a divorce – now that you were finally on the same page for the first time since the end of those blissful early days of marriage.

Divorce is in your control, if you allow it to be.  Although the pain and suffering, the debilitating stress and the fear of the unknown are all there, the process of getting divorced is what you make of it.  You can travel down the path of hiring the most reputable divorce attorneys as you search for the best of the best.  Who is the top shark?  Who will terrorize my spouse on the stand?  Who will get me all that I’m entitled?

Both of you must come to the realization that this destructive path only yields a win-lose outcome.  One spouse wins and the other loses with astronomical costs and dire consequences.  The only people that benefit are the attorneys and their children, not yours.  Cases drag out indefinitely, regardless of where you reside.  You miss time from work; you fight and argue.  Perhaps your case is settled in two years but do you really want the judge to determine the dwelling place for your children?

There must be an answer to this conundrum.  You need to come to an agreement and find a happy medium, one that is less stressful, less anxiety filled and less financially burdensome.  You and your children can only benefit from a win-win solution.

There is only answer; mediation.  Mediation is clearly the best way to resolve your differences amicably so that you can both obtain the best possible outcome in a divorce settlement and family plan.  It is a therapeutic alternative to litigation and the only sane way to get divorced.  Gone is the added stress of the constant trips to court.  Gone is the burdensome strain of untold legal fees.  With mediation, you’ll have the ability to move forward, utilizing a positive, emotionally health approach that will pay dividends long-term.  A win-win outcome equals peace and harmony, plain and simple.

Mediation sessions will address all of your marital concerns, including custody issues, finances and equitable distribution.  Remaining completely neutral and unbiased, mediations assist you in navigating difficult territory and arrive at a settlement agreement.

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