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Win-Win Divorce Solutions is one of the only Long Island divorce mediation firms that offers an impartial co-mediation experience with mediators who have training in both law and social work.

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What is Divorce Mediation?

What is Divorce Mediation?

In Long Island divorce mediation, you and your spouse hire a neutral third party, called a divorce mediator, to meet with you in an effort to discuss and resolve the issues in your divorce.

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Benefit of Mediation vs. Litigation

Benefit of Mediation vs. Litigation

Most divorces are long, extensive & expensive. Divorce mediation Long Island by contrast, can reach a compromise in 6 – 8 sessions & for a fraction of a typical divorce.

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Why Choose Us to Mediate?

Why Choose Us to Mediate?

Win-Win Divorce Solutions is one of the only Long Island divorce mediation firms that offers an impartial co-mediation experience with mediators who have training in both law and social work.

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Child Support Payments

Did you know you and your spouse can determine child support through divorce mediation? It’s an important step in the overall process.

Most people think child support is set by the court based on the noncustodial parent’s income, and that is one method for determining child support. However, setting child support through the court can involve a lengthy legal battle that sometimes pulls the children into it, exorbitant attorney fees for both parents, bitterness and resentment that can affect family dynamics for years to come, and a financial situation that might not be ideal for anyone involved.

Rather than going through a court hearing to determine child support issues, you and your spouse can come to a child support agreement through mediation. The mediation process is very different from litigation and can result in a better outcome for your family.

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How is Setting Child Support Through Mediation Different?

Child Involvement

When support and other child custody issues are litigated, your child or children may be called to testify in court or speak to an attorney, which can create a stressful situation for the child. In contrast, you and your ex can set the amount of child support together with the help of a neutral mediator. In almost every case, matters like the child support amount and the details related to it can be decided by the parents without involving the child or children at all. There’s no need to drag them into the fray or make them privy to details about the divorce that you’d probably prefer they didn’t know.

Most couples who separate don’t want the child aware of the details of the divorce, and they don’t want the child to have to witness their parents bickering and fighting over money. Through mediation, it’s possible to shield the child or children from the most painful and sensitive aspects of the divorce.


Divorce is expensive on many levels. Often the gross income of the family is cut in half. Shared assets are split up. One parent may be dealing with securing a new residence and the cost associated with that, while the other parent may be struggling to maintain the family home without the benefit of both incomes. The last thing either party needs is to add high attorney fees to the rest of the expenses they’re facing. And considering how long child support cases can be drawn out, those expenses can become crippling. It’s essential to conserve resources wherever you can, especially with everyone embarking on a new life. Your future might feel uncertain, and having a financial safety net as you face it can give you more confidence. Therefore, if you don’t absolutely have to resort to litigation and the potentially vast sums of money it requires, you shouldn’t.

Mediation is more affordable in many ways. Not only do mediators usually charge less than lawyers, mediation sessions can be scheduled around work so parents are not subjected to lost wages. Though it’s true that in rare instances partners continue to disagree despite mediation efforts, you should absolutely try to avoid expensive litigation if at all possible. This can be crucial if finances are already strained, and it also frees up resources for children’s futures.


When family law cases are decided, they might be held in open court. This can bring the details of child custody, child support matters, and other personal details of your divorce and situation into the public eye in a way you might be justifiably uncomfortable with. Like other decisions made in open court, child support may become a matter of public record, which is definitely not something you want if you can possibly avoid it. When a couple splits, one parent (or both) expects they will be required to pay child support. But for many people, child support and other finances are personal, and they would prefer to keep them that way. Your financial situation is simply no one else’s business.

With mediation, you and your partner can agree on child support without ever setting foot in court. Child support details are kept between the parents, and until the support agreement is filed with the court, no one else beyond your mediator will set eyes on it.

With litigation, an attorney is fighting to secure a “victory” for their client, and to that end, anything is fair game: your gross income, assets, financial records, employment history, credit history, tax information, and much more can be dragged into the fray and exposed. With the mediation process, couples are working to establish a child support situation that benefits everyone and can approach each other without feeling like combatants. As long as all involved are open and honest, the kind of brutal searches common in litigation can be avoided–and a mediator has no authority to obtain any records or information unless you provide it.

As long as you and your partner are open about assets, you should have no trouble crafting a child support order in mediation. Even if you worry you’ll never be able to agree, a public court battle should be a last resort.

Time Frame

Working with a mediator to set child support can be much faster than determining support through the court. Parents work together to determine the payments and other details related to child custody and support. If both parties are on close to the same page and approach the child support mediation with an open mind, a readiness to communicate, and a willingness to compromise, child support guidelines can be established, reviewed, agreed upon, and filed, all in the span of a few months.

Even if parents don’t see eye to eye on child support at first, a mediator trained to both offer legal advice and address the emotional concerns of both parents can help them reach a compromise. Difficult and complex child support issues can take longer to resolve, but in most cases, it’s still far quicker and easier to use mediation to set child support than to go through attorneys and the court. This means getting it over with and getting on with your life as soon as you can.

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Who Controls the Outcome

With mediation, custody of the child, child support, and related matters are completely in the hands of the parents, so long as they can agree. The mediator has no authority to force a child support order on a parent, and the mediator cannot compel the parent to pay child support. The sole purpose of the mediator is to facilitate an agreement that’s beneficial to all. However, parties still enjoy an attorney client relationship with their mediator and access to the mediator’s experience with family law and child support.

On the other hand, if the case goes to family law court, the amount of child support will be decided by a judge through a court order that can be difficult to challenge. The judge will take into account incomes, expenses, child support guidelines set by your state, child care costs, with whom the child resides and how often, expenses related to the child’s education and activities, custody arrangements, visitation, health insurance expenses, extenuating circumstances such as a child or children with special needs, the number of children the parents have together, and many other factors to determine how much child support the paying parent–the mother or father–will be required by the state to pay the other parent.

In calculating child support and issuing the court order, judges endeavor to be as fair as possible. The amount of child support takes into account many factors as well as state laws and child support guidelines. In this way, the court applies the process equally to everyone. If the parties involved absolutely cannot agree on the amount of child support, leaving it to a judge is the only choice.

If, however, it’s decided that one parent will pay child support and both parties agree on the amount, the child support may not need to adhere to state regulations. The custodial parent and paying parent have no end of options as long as they can agree with each other. For example, the custodial parent may agree to a smaller amount of child support if the other parent is willing to transport the child to extracurricular activities. Or the custodial parent might only want child care covered. The point is, with mediation, the amount and form the child support takes is completely up to the parties involved–so long as they can agree with each other. Mediators do not issue a child support order, make judgments, or take sides at all. They are there as attorneys who can provide general information or social workers who support parents emotionally and offer suggestions for compromise.

The bottom line is with mediation, the parties involved determine child support. With litigation, the court issues the child support order… and it can be difficult to modify.

Overall Experience

Divorce is painful and stressful. No matter how long it’s been in the works or the reason behind it, seeing your family split up and your child or children in a custody disagreement hurts. Taking that custody problem to court can make a bad situation worse. The litigation process is adversarial. Both parties and their representation are fighting for the best deal–for themselves. It’s no secret that custody cases can get ugly and damage relationships for years to come. Adding in child support and the stress dealing with finances brings–especially when those details are aired publicly–adds anxiety for parent and child.

Mediators provide a much more peaceful alternative to resolving custody disagreements, one in which the goal is not to “win” or “beat” the other party, but to arrive at a compromise that benefits parents and children.

When you have a child or children, that means you will have some sort of relationship with the other parent, at least until the child or children reach legal adulthood. Parents can avoid fostering resentment over custody cases by working through them in mediation and parting as amicably as possible.

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What Should Parents Consider When Setting Child Support?


Obviously how much someone earns, their bills, and similar factors will be part of the custody arrangement. If one parent will be in a significantly better financial position after the split, they should want to ensure their child will be provided for in an adequate manner. Assets and their distribution can come into play in a custody case. In fact, as long as parents agree to the terms, they can set nearly any guidelines they wish through mediation. The main focus should be on a smooth transition for the child and enough resources that the child can live in the way they are accustomed to.

Extenuating Circumstances

Every case is different, but Win-Win enjoys a high rate of success, in part because our staff is comprised of people trained in both law and social work. This makes our company unique and in an ideal position to facilitate an agreement that benefits both partners and their children. We know navigation of finances, child care expenses, states’ individual regulations, and everything else you must face as you plan a future for yourself and your children can seem overwhelming.

We are here to help.

Call or email the office today to get started by setting up a free consultation, where we can tell you and your partner more about mediation, assess your individual needs, and get you started on the road to a bright future beyond your divorce.

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