Win-Win Divorce mediation to the rescue. The first apparent concern was approaching the issue of the stay at home unemployed mom vs. the 6-figured salaried dad. Allison was concerned how she would continue with her opulent lifestyle and exorbitant spending without her husbands support. Would she need to look for a full-time job and/or go back to school? How would she support herself financially moving forward? Her lavish spending of 10k a month on both basic and luxury items would have to be curtailed. Would a 5k budget suffice? Allison was very concerned about this & was even pondering, “do I get divorced or live in a dead-end marriage, not being happy, but at least financially secure.” Drew on the other hand did not want to get divorced for other reasons, as he was secure in the stability of the family home & did not want to take that away. He knew he was in a dead-end marriage, but at the same time did not want to have his kids uprooted and living in 2 homes and destroying his family that was established 15 years ago. Furthermore, both parties’ religious observance changed through the years, as Drew continued with his Judaic practice, while Allision was straying from it. The back & forth continued between the parties, as the Husband & Wife were very torn. At first, the Wife, even with said trepidation from the past, was afraid of her uncertain future, but wanted to move on from the marriage. It was interesting to note, that although Drew was initially reluctant to get divorced because of his desire to maintain emotional stability in the home, his thought process changed as the mediation progressed. The emotional components of mediation that were discussed and conveyed, allowed Drew to come to the realization that it would be emotionally healthier to split-up than stay in a dead-end marriage despite his concerns. We discussed how Allision would be able to get approximately $4,000 a month in child support & maintenance, after a 13-year marriage, but even that was not to her liking. She did not know how she would financially survive. Her lifestyle & religious observance was changing, and she needed to leave the marriage. Her husband, on the other hand was observant and wanted to continue that lifestyle, which made it very hard for them to continue together raising their kids as a united front in a Jewish home. Additionally, being in an advanced academic program, Allison had no idea how she would juggle school and earn part-time income. Unfortunately, through the mediation experience, her unrealistic expectations were dramatically exposed. In fact, we needed to make her aware that her desire for 6K a month was untenable.